Nietzsche believed that you’ve gotta be able to think about suicide before you can move beyond wanting to kill yourself because only once you’ve accepted it as an option can you make the choice not to do it, and the alternative, to deny the urge and ignore it, would inevitably cause you to cave to the unaddressed desire you have for it.
And the dude was right.
The rogue’s gallery of psych students and junior practitioners on this hellsite have hijacked my post about not being mean to yourself to explain to people how actually what I’m talking about is cognitive-behavioral therapy, and how it involves disciplining yourself to never talk negatively about yourself and how it’s important to check with a therapist that you’re doing it correctly, and like, this is why I don’t trust and can’t stand these people.
Being your own friend is a holistic process, there aren’t exercises you can do or therapy methods you can apply, which is why most people relapse almost immediately after stopping CBT or DBT, because they haven’t actually made any progress in how they look out for themselves, they were merely thrust into a disciplinary regimen where they are taught to engage in habits which their therapist then holds them accountable to, and so, without that therapist, they fall apart again.
Not being mean to yourself doesn’t mean censoring self-deprecating humor, it doesn’t mean snapping a rubber band on your wrist when you have a negative thought, it means taking time to sit down and think about yourself as if you were another person, to really take stock of who you are from as objective a perspective as you can muster, and if you really want to grow, realizing that this person you see can’t grow if the person closest to them, which is you, spends all their time berating them and making them feel like shit.
Being friends with yourself is not a series of therapeutic exercises, it’s challenging yourself to evaluate why you’re a dick to yourself in a way you aren’t to other people, or maybe you are a dick to other people, and maybe you want to be a dick to yourself, which is goofy as fuck, but if you’re still suffering, maybe ask yourself why the fuck you want to be such a dick, the answers may surprise you.
That thing of “always avoid negative thoughts” actually does more harm than good, in a lot of cases. It can actually lead to a system where you pretty much scold and punish yourself for not thinking “right.”
“Control the uncontrollable and scary (like suicidal thoughts) by purging all impure thoughts and punishing yourself if you fail” is… never gonna work.
And to be honest I don’t think the people that advocate it are all that interested in making you feel better, even if they think they are. I think
it’s more about a way to control all the scary brains out there to make their own lives safer.
Such a desire to banish all negativity is more about creating a stable, controllable society where the depressed and the angry don’t go around sharing their sadness and anger and rage with the world, or god forbid, lash out at the things that are hurting them.
every time i see someone abbreviate fullmetal alchemist brotherhood as FMAB my brain says “fassigned memale at birth”
anyway Ovid was just a bad writer. plainly mediocre at his job. really shitty dude, yes, but really shitty artist too!
he was so misogynistic he actually sabotaged his own work like…. he consciously refused to nuance his views and accept to give female characters a psychology which would have given his book a way better emotional balance for the reader, a much more engaging piece of fiction, and a more useful catharsis altogether. he had some wonderful material just lying around and did a shitty job at using it and basically ruined his own book because he hated women and especially rape survivors so much!!!
how shitty of an artist do you have to be to refuse to make a better book because it goes against your bigotry???
just imagine if the Metamorphoses had been written by a woman. what we would be likely to have now would be this amazing book full of enchanting stories, many of them being heart-breaking because she would actually have acknowledged that women are humans with a wide range of emotions and would probably have mentioned trauma even if differently than our modern definition of trauma. not to mention that it would have literally twice more readers because let’s face it, reading the Metamorphoses as a woman and a rape survivor is a fucking trip, dude. its excruciating!!
i mean yes we got it you hate women – but there are a lot of misogynistic authors who wrote amazingly nuanced, deep, interesting, lively and likable heroines not gonna tell names but yall have at least one in mind. because at least, those excuses of human beings were decent fucking artists who actually cared about their job!!!!!!
Ovid could have written such a good fiction book about mythology stories if he just had stepped back a bit on the misogyny. but he didnt!!!! and this book is actually bad especially considering its potential and the richness of its subject!!!! it’s boring and repetitive and theres no challenge of anything anywhere!!! Ovid used mythology as a tool to justify his and his peers’ misogyny and it makes me so mad tbh. not to mention the fact hes literally glorifying dictators and justifies paedophilia but
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he manipulated and sabotaged his own work because he hated women so much!! what kind of artist does that???
I’m done with my Medusa essay and it’s just 5 pages of pure academic salt. politely savage rhetorical questions and an unforgivingly close analysis of the text & its effects. Medusa sweetie i dont know how to hold a sword but i know how to make scholars weep and this is OUR moment
You’re kidding, right? “Horny people are not protected under the constitution”.
1. How in fuck’s name do you think you’re existing right now, killing people’s brain cells with every unsensible post you make?
2. From what i’m understanding, Abraham Lincoln, a mostly honorable president, had no rights? People who use their power for good, and have blood children, are straight up shit? You need to rethink your life there, buddy boy.
mate,
Abraham Lincoln, the most notoriously horny president
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