Tag: yea…….

nitewrighter:

oakthorne:

nitewrighter:

“Obviously ‘bihet’ offends a lot of bisexuals, so we need to come up with a better term for bisexuals in m/f relationships.”

How about… and hear me out… this may sound crazy…. but you… continue to call us bisexual… because (and I realize this gets confusing for you people so read this next part slowly) it turns out we continue to be bisexual regardless of who we’re dating.

Okay, this shit gets me all heated up. I’m just a cisgay dude up in here, but I have Some Opinions about this nonsense.

Bisexual people in relationships with folks of the other gender are not only themselves still bisexual (I’m really ashamed of a bunch of all that this shit even needs to be said, like c’mon), but their relationships are queer.

Yes, I just said that straight people can be involved in queer relationships without they themselves being queer.

The reason for this is simple: folks who are in relationships with queer people will always have to deal with their partner’s marginalization impacting their relationship. Always. Even if their bisexual partner chooses to be entirely stealth about their queerness (and that’s their right, by gods, fight me about it), their relationship is still impacted by that very choice existing. It’s a facet heterosexual relationships never have to negotiate.

Frankly, bisexual folks have to deal with active marginalization from multiple angles: heterocentrist and homocentrist. And in case I actually have to say this aloud? We should not be fucking marginalizing our own, y’all. That makes you a bad person, and you should feel bad.

To sum up: Bisexual folks are queer as hell. Straight folks can be in queer relationships without themselves ever being queer. And FFS please stop harassing bi- and pan-folks already, man. It’s 2018. Find hobbies that are not shitty.

I love this addition to my post so much thank you.

goldhue:

LGBT Muslims are real and valid. We don’t deserve the homophobic shit we get from the Muslim community for being “haram”. We don’t deserve the islamophobic shit we get from the LGBT community for being religious. Being LGBT and being religious isn’t mutually exclusive. And it shouldn’t be. 

bottomsona:

Feeling Like a Woman is entirely based on the assumptions about what other women feel like in regards to their womanhood (which is expected to be the traditional image sold by the heteropatriarchy), and it often grossly overestimates how comfortable women are with and in their womanhood

womanhood is alienating! many of us feel a sort of “i guess im theoretically a women but i dont feel like one”, like there’s a barrier between you and the woman you’re supposed to be. there’s no single “correct” experience of womanhood and just because butch lesbians or trans women (and butch trans women especially) dont fit into your perception of what a woman “should be” doesn’t make either of them any less of a woman

and really, in a world where women are always being told what we’re not and what we should be, you’re gonna go and use the same practice that hurts all of us against your fellow women? for shame