Tag: preach

sweetschizo:

sweetschizo:

sweetschizo:

Funny thing is that those anti psychiatry people always focus on anti depressants like anti psychotics are FAR more invasive and harsher drugs than most anti depressants and they are literally being forced on people in many cases but these people are extremely quiet when it comes to anti psychotics even though you could easily argue that anti psychotics are far, far scarier medication than anti depressants cause they’d rather we all take heavy medication than question why they fear us and our illness more than they fear our meds

Like studies are showing that anti psychotics might very likely exaggerate cognitive and negative symptoms and might have devastating effects on our brains yet not a sound from these anti psychiatry people when people are being guilt tripped or literally forced to keep taking anti psychotics despite severe side effects or when psychotic people have anti psychotics presented as the only valid choice like not a fucking peep y’all are transparent

“Anti depressants are bad for you” like no ones gonna force a syringe with anti depressants on you against your will can we maybe focus less on the people who voluntarily take anti depressants and more on psychotic people who are forced and coerced into taking invasive meds with no regard for the negative effects of these meds instead of shaming people for freely choosing to take anti depressants like here’s an actual issue for you pals if you hate psychiatric medication so much maybe your activism shouldn’t be exclusively about meds that people can voluntarily start and stop taking any minute I mean what about the meds that people are coerced and forced to take

bananannabeth:

okay look. i get a few asks every now and again about age gaps in relationships and i know that there are exceptions to every rule but.

i know three girls my age, twenty four, who are stuck in relationships that they shouldn’t be in because an older guy groomed them when they were young teens.

one was thirteen when a seventeen year old boy started flirting with her. she was flattered. she started lying to her parents and sneaking around with him. she fell in love with him. he says he loves her back, and maybe he thinks he does, but he doesn’t act like it. he quit his job without telling her when she was pregnant with their second child, almost singlehandedly raising their first, because he just felt like it. no regard for the family. and she laughed about it when she told me, like it was the funniest thing, like he hadn’t endangered all of them on a whim. because he’s done so much little shit over the years that she’s accustomed to it. he always gets his way and she cleans up his mess because she loves him.

another girl works a full time job and then comes home to cook and clean because her unemployed boyfriend refuses to. she was fourteen and he was eighteen when they started dating and she is still convinced he’s going to change. he quit smoking when she threatened to leave but literally weeks later, as soon as he’d cowed her back into submission, he took it up again, and then tried to paint her as a villain for ‘trying to take away his joy’.

all three girls become completely different people when their partners are around. quieter, smaller.

when it’s just us they laugh as they tell me about the men losing their tempers over something small, like knocking over chairs is a rational response to her asking if she can go away with her friends for a weekend.

they’ve been with these men since they were so young they cannot imagine their lives without them. their entire identities are forged around these uneven relationships.

and that’s the key – they’re uneven. i don’t doubt that two fifteen year olds can get together and stay together happily, because they both had the opportunity to grow up within the relationship, at the same pace. if it’s a fifteen year old and a nineteen year old, though, one has already done so much more growing than the other. they’re at completely different stages of development, they’re psychologically unable to have an equal balance of power in the relationship.

basically, please don’t be flattered by older people showing an interest in you. instead, consider why they don’t want to date someone their own age, who is far more likely to stand up to them when they get controlling. all relationships should have equal shares, but age gaps between early and late teens, or teens and adults, don’t allow that. please don’t take a chance on you being the exception to the rule.