lobsterandskittles:

sadbrowngirlclub:

It’s been said before but we really need to normalise the idea of not having been in a relationship / having sex / dating before your 20’s because it is literallyyyy so young and it absolutely doesn’t make anyone weird for not having had that experience before so I don’t understand why we get off shaming people for something so common

the idea that sex is supposed to be happening and constantly sought after, no matter what, and every day that I don’t is a failure, and every time I do is a worthwhile experience (no matter if I actually enjoyed it), has been so harmful and the source of a lot of stupid shit and wasted time and energy in my life.

gothhabiba:

in some ways the recent-ish widespread replacement that some writers have undertaken of generic “he” with generic “she” is very nice to read (imagine? being automatically linguistically included within the realm of human actors? to have it acknowledged that you have a subjectivity? is this how men feel all the time?? WILD) but there are also moments when it’s irksome…. e.g. “A field specialist depends upon this field-Imaginary for the construction of her primal identity within the field” okay let us not…… for a moment pretend that “American studies” or probably ANY academic field has had the tacit ideology it relies on (assuming of course that we accept this construction as useful) primarily or even largely shaped by women, & let us not for a moment pretend that negative conceptions of womanhood & gender (i.e. ideas shaped about women largely in our absence) would not in fact form a decent part of the “field-Imaginary” for any field…… this generic liberal painting-over of gender has the ability to obscure gendered power just as much as it has the ability to challenge its (linguistic / revealed through language) assumptions

Lila. Lila. Est-ce que, en termes modernes, tu crois que le narrateur de la Recherche n’est pas neurotypique ? Je sais pas, c’est peut-être juste sa personnalité, mais je trouve qu’il agit de façon très spéciale (et cette question est beaucoup trop spécifique jfjfkfl)

girafeduvexin:

C’est une excellente question, au contraire !! On en parlait avec @theysbian une fois, sauf qu’on pensait plutôt à Proust lui-même. On se demandait s’il n’était pas autiste – et dans ce cas le narrateur, tant inspiré de lui, pourrait aussi l’être.

Proust parle beaucoup de “névropathes” : Charlus, Bloch, le narrateur et peut-être Swann en sont. Dans la mesure où ces 4 persos sont ceux ressemblant le plus à Proust, on peut supposer que Proust se considérait lui-même névropathe.

Être névropathe semble être une sorte d’hypersensibilité, aussi bien physique que psychologique (psychosomatique pourrait-on dire).

Au delà de ça, on pourrait certainement voir le narrateur comme dépressif, Charlus comme bipolaire ou dépressif (selon moi ofc) etc. Les personnages de Proust, pas que le narrateur, sont trèèès loins d’être neurotypiques.