i have a cat named The Lady and my favourite thing about her is that she manages to have this very petite, delicate face while also being incredibly fat so every time she goes downstairs i just hear like.
THUNK THUNK THUNK THUNK THUnk thunkthunkthunk
and then my mother in the softest, most delighted voice going “oh, hello my wee lady!”
do men have resting bitch faces as well or do they not have negative characteristics ascribed to them for putting on a neutral rather than a deliriously happy facial expression
Yes, Black men in majority white spaces do. If I don’t smile every single second of the day my coworkers become in intimidated and start asking me what’s wrong, telling me to smile, make jokes about how I’m trying to be a thug/act hard, why am I angry, etc. And it’s not just white men at my job God FORBID I my large Black ass makes a white girl feel threaten because I’m sitting down with a neutral expression.
I’m not trying to take this post away from women and make it about Black men but I want to point out that wether it’s patriarchy or white supremacy; those who feel as if they have power over you HATE to see you not smile. They are so used to people like you smiling to gain their approval that when you don’t there’s a cognitive dissonance that makes them extremely uncomfortable.
That’s why “angry Black women” is a thing. They have to put on a smile for everyone (yes even feminist white women) or we all get uncomfortable.
i love how the cis/str8s are like “:’- ( i dont feel welcomed at pride :’- (” and its just like……… alright cool… i dont feel welcomed in my own family, work place, school, or in this society but please go off
close your eyes, just for a moment, and imagine how you felt when you had been hurt. not the scenario, because this is about keeping you safe. now imagine, what you needed in that instance. imagine who you needed.
become that person. become the person your younger self needed, be as kind, as strong as you want. you can never go back in time, but that hurt person you were is still there, and they still need you.
