you know ive been thinking on the whole nonbinary lesbian thing and like… my question to people who oppose that label is: what’s a viable alternative? what else can we call ourselves that is simple and cohesive and respectful to lesbian history (and lgbt history as a whole)?
like, im not bisexual. i’m not “gynesexual” (which is gross and fetishistic as a term but that’s a different can of worms). i love women, and as far as my social and political classing goes… i’m grouped with women in most situations because nonbinary identities have been so far removed and erased from my home country’s overarching culture that we have no power as a collective. but the fact that our histories have been erased and our power removed doesn’t change the fact that we do exist. we must just generally “pick a side” of the binary to associate with in the absence of broad recognition.
my gender is essentially “butch.” i call myself a lesbian because of how that word relates me to my partners. this has been a relatively common phenomenon within butch-femme culture for decades (i suggest looking at the work of the late Leslie Feinberg). it’s not a newfangled or particularly complex concept. what it boils down to is “the role and identity i take on within society is separate from the heteropatriarchal construct of womanhood” or beyond that “the role and identity i have is separated from eurocentric definitions of gender” in the case of nonbinary lesbians of color.
people who vehemently oppose the idea of nonbinary lesbians and actively ignore our rich history of trans identity and gender nonconformity pretty much… just hate lesbians existing as lesbians. we have always had complex relationships with gender.
Category: Non classé
Women: You always talk over me and-
Man: That literally never happens
As a Selfish Child Free Woman:
Reblog if you’re one of those selfish child free women who:
* Has chosen not to contribute to the overpopulation of the planet; one of the biggest threats to every species living on it, including our own
* Instead of devoting all her time to rearing a child, can now devote more time to helping others, contributing to the arts and to education
* Doesn’t feel like a last name or eye color is a good enough reason to bring another human life onto this planet
* Doesn’t feel that having a child for the sole purpose of having someone to care for them in old age is ethical
* Feels as though she would not be a good mother and choses to not force a child to grow up with a sub par mother
* Understands how expensive childbirth is, not to mention the rearing of a child and choses not to force herself into massive debt
Feel free to add your own
The idea that it’s a woman’s romantic duty to save her man from his troubles leads so many women into abusive relationships and traps them there
a few days ago bf told me that a couple years ago when he played counterstrike he would respond to dudes getting angry and aggressive and hostile by saying “a kissaroo from me to you” in a slightly goofy friendly voice sort of like the voice you’d associate with a dog muppet. he said they would absolutely lose their shit every time, insisting things like “i dont want a kissaroo from you! only tall blonde girls!”. they always said kissaroo. i cant stop thinking about this
hey fellow nb lesbians!! you don’t actually have to explain your gender or how you identify as a lesbian to anyone! even if they’re asking nicely, it’s okay to just say that it’s not something you want to talk about. i know it can be very difficult to try to explain something like that especially if you don’t quite understand it yourself. don’t add explaining yourself to the list of things that stress you out, you’re not required to educate others! ❤
(trans///med, tru//scum, transmisogynists & ppl who don’t believe in nb lesbians pls don’t interact, you’re not really doing anyone a service by leaving annoying comments lmao)
