publicschoolstories:

So this boy in one of my classes arrived late. He had just come from the nurse and found out that he had a fractured knuckle and needed to have an X-Ray. One of his friends loudly joked “Was it Fortnite?” and his face changed.
Turns out he punched his dresser after he lost a game.
He lost a game of fortnite, punched his dresser, fractured his knuckle, and
Friendly Reminder That This Kid Is 17

furiousgoldfish:

I get so fucking
angry when people try to rationalize why parents abuse children and it’s always
“oh parents have been thru it too” “oh they had a hard
life” “oh they were abused too” “oh they never knew love so
how could they give it” and what they’re basically saying is: Well, the
child is suffering but it’s not anybody’s fault. It was inevitable. And you
know what that means? There’s nobody to blame, there’s no way to stop it, parents
who have had difficulties in life will always abuse their kids and children
will just have to suck it up because that’s life.

Well then, what
about me? And others like me? We’ve been brutalized by our parents severely, we
haven’t know anything except neglect and pain and hatred, and would never do it
to another living soul on earth, much less a child. What are we then? An
exception? Are we so much fucking smarter and intelligent and insightful than
all the parents on the world that we figured this out? Are we special cases?
Are we miracles? How come our parents couldn’t have figured out what we have,
that hurting a child is an act of evil and that we cannot claim to be a good
person after we do that? How come something so fucking simple and obvious has
eluded all of their eyes over and over again but we know it? How come if
everyone abused has no choice but to become a monster themselves, we’re not
monsters still? If we could suffer abuse and remain human, why couldn’t they do
it to?

We’re the proof
that abuse does not produce abusers. Abuse is a choice, every single time a
parent abuses a child they’re making a choice to do it. And the easier this
choice is to make and get away with, the more abusers we will have. This world
is run by abusers and makes it easy for abusers to make that choice, even
relives them out of the guilt for choosing that and provides them with many
“worse” examples and excuses and rationalizations so they would still
feel good about themselves! This world is fighting to continue child abuse, to
continue worshipping abusers. This needs to stop, all excuses need to die. All
abusers need to be held responsible for their own actions, every single one. No
sad backstories, no tragic histories, no debate about how much harder it would
be to not abuse a child than to abuse them. If we could make a choice to not
abuse others, so can they. Their last excuse is burned to the ground by our
existence.

accarahara:

I’m gonna be real honest with y’all, but like no intelligence is as important as emotional and interpersonal intelligence like I don’t care if you don’t know the difference between a softball and a volleyball but if you know how to treat people like basic human beings and understand others have complex feelings and how to approach that with kindness and genuine empathy then I fucking love you with my whole fucking heart the end

furiousgoldfish:

yeah i’d love to
move back with my parents but i have this “unwilling to die so they could
be happy” situation going on so i guess i’m just selfish haha

somewhere–in-between:

useful-lesbian:

Ever since I started making the conscious effort to call adults “women” instead of “girls” it’s become disturbingly apparent just how normalized infantilizing women is.

“Girls’ night,” “Atta girl!” “Girl on girl,” “Baby girl,” “Good morning, girls,” “girl talk,” “I’ve missed my girls,” etc etc

It’s to the point where women actually shy away from the word “women” and prefer to be called girls, probably because to no longer be a girl is to be old, tired, useless, homely, motherly, boring, nagging, serious, etc.

On the flip side, you rarely hear men being referred to as “boys” outside of maybe pop music and tumblr’s “soft boi” memes. And I have never heard men ask to be called boys instead of men. That’s because being a man is something to aspire to and something to be proud of.

Another side effect is that by calling all females “girls,” it obscures her age. If you hear, “a girl was attacked last night” you assume it was an adult unless an age is mentioned. Versus if you said “boy” there would be almost no question.

It takes some practice, but using accurate language to differentiate between adult women and girl children is really important, especially when discussing feminist topics. Normalize calling women women, and stop infantilizing them into “girls.”

i’ve reblogged on this topic before, but i have to say, this has been such an impactful shift in language that i have made in the recent months.