honestly i didn’t even think Zendaya is Meechee was that funny until it generated this much unjustified anger from someone and now it’s fucking hilarious
unjustified? UNJUSTIFIED???
fine, whatever, I don’t have to take this from a “nonbinary lesbian”. whatever that means.
you realize you’ve literally just made this funnier right
il faudrait que tu transpires de l’eau bénite, il faudrait que tu javellises ta douleur. elle te veut inodore, incolore.
tu ne lui offriras jamais ta polychromie, mais tu rouilleras au creux de ses paumes funestes. elle ne connaîtra jamais tes mains – ni tendues, ni moites. elle ne connaîtra rien d’autre que l’oxydation de ton corps qui disparaît.
et ton absence sera la plus fragile des rouillures.
No conversation around sexual violence is complete without a serious look at the culture which produces adolescent boys encouraging each other through positive and negative reinforcement to prove their social status through the use of direct sexual harassment of adolescent girls.
Like if you remain ignorant to how certain populations of boys will actively threaten to ostracize or violently dominate certain targeted boys who do not perform a mandated amount of sexual harassment – you remain ignorant to the very processes through which young men learn to associate their personal material success with the sexual domination of women in their life.
Boys are not born with the inclination to harm those who respect women, they learn from adults, media, and the greater culture that such behavior is actively weak, undesirable, and foolish. It is this very process through which the archetype of the “Nice Guy” as a loser emerges.
the thing about childhood emotional abuse is that the parent/abuser molds (intentionally or not) a child into the victim they want. they program the child, sometimes from birth, to be attuned to unspoken threats, invective, and demands, learned from the abuser’s pattern of behaviors. this can make the abuse extremely difficult for a child to identify for themselves or to outsiders. one look or one seemingly benign comment – unremarkable to anyone outside the abusive system – can invoke an entire history of abuse. one subtle cue from the parent can cause terror and shame that seems out of proportion in the moment, but is perfectly reasonable within the context of the long-term abusive relationship… and that hyper-responsiveness/vigilance in the victim is in fact a goal of the abuser (whether conscious or not).
it can be really hard to explain emotional abuse; it’s more obscured and insidious than physical abuse. that’s actually built in to the abusive system; it’s a feature. if you can’t explain why one look, comment, or other cue from a parent sends you into a panic or shame spiral, it’s not your fault and it’s not just you. take that feeling you have as sufficient cause to do whatever you need to do to protect yourself. the threat is real and your boundaries are justified.
