lettersiarrange:

i know commercials make it seem romantic to “surprise” your partner with a major life/financial decision (like a puppy or a car) but it’s a very bad idea

you shouldn’t be making any major decisions that affect your partner without consulting them first!

don’t forget that the reason why surprise proposals became a Thing is because the diamond industry figured out that men will spend more money on a ring if the woman isn’t involved

companies don’t care about your relationship, they care about you spending as much as possible

plus, imagine how much more fun you’d have picking out the perfect puppy with your partner or going with them to the car dealership and letting them pick out their favorite color/model. suddenly a gift filled with uncertainty (what if’s too much commitment for them? what if they wanted a really specific type? what if they hate it?) becomes a fun bonding opportunity where they get to choose exactly what they want and you get to see their joy throughout every part of the process

tl;dr don’t make any long term decisions that involve your partner without involving them, regardless of the occasion