bimahbabe:

fluffwing:

hey. if you primarily use he/him pronouns… you shouldn’t use the term lesbian to describe yourself. going by male pronouns means you want people to refer to you and think of you as a guy. “he came with me.” “i saw him at the mall.” the mental image those sentences produce is the whole point behind pronouns. a lesbian is a woman who is attracted to women. a lesbian is someone who does not identify as a man. i don’t know how else to spell this out for you guys

srry but ur disregarding years of lesbian lived experiences wherein we have been gender nonconforming in self determined and unique ways (butchness just being one of those ways) – identifying fully as women (like you condescendingly explained to us about ourselves, lesbians are women lol) while presenting in stereotypically “masculine” ways including names/pronouns. 

using he pronouns doesn’t automatically mean “man”, that’s so oversimplified considering how LGBT people have been creatively screwing around with pronouns for years as a mode of transgressing gender – and it’s never been just as cut and dry as trans men using he/him, trans women using she/her. 

pronouns are 1 of many components that have historically overlapped how people express not only gender identity, but also sexuality and gender presentation. you’re recycling cis/heteronormative gendered expectations by defending essentialist views of pronouns. “you’re transgressing gender (roles) wrong, you have to do it within the rules” is a contradiction (transgressing by definition = bending/breaking them). this rhetoric doesn’t help trans men or lesbians, or any gnc or trans people. where does this anyone whose conceptions of gender aren’t that cut and dry and binary? 

you’re a man. you have zero right to tell lesbians what we are and aren’t. you probably don’t want cis lesbians defining your transmasc reality for you, and on the other side of the same coin we don’t want men defining LGBT women’s subcultures, identities, and the ways we confront misogyny and gender roles. you’re shocked that the mean lesbians are responding harshly, but it’s because this shit is painful and disrespectful to us– you’re callously writing over our narratives with a textpost not even thinking twice about whether or not you should actually learn some shit about lesbian identities before taking an authoritative position on them.