fatallyblonde:

goldenlesbians:

One thing that people don’t usually get is that femmes relate more to butches than to any “feminine” straight woman ever.

And that is because being a femme is firstly about how we love women and how we live as lesbians. It’s the role we play among other lesbian women and not just about a feminine presentation.

Sure, most of us might enjoy performing femininity, but this is just a consequence of this role we play as lesbians.

That’s why we relate to butches, because we both know how it is to live as lesbians, we have similar experiences, we center our lives on loving women, unlike any straight woman. There is no femme without butch, our identities were founded and depend on each other, our identities are devoted to maintaining this relationship and rely on supporting each other.

So please stop comparing straight women to femmes and thinking we have anything in common really!

(TERFS don’t touch this post)

honestly, straight women have this habit of talking to and treating me like I’m one of them even when they know I’m a big ole lezzie and it’s fucking painful. they have no comprehension of how different we are and how differently we experience the world.