furiousgoldfish:

Every single victim of abuse fought back in the beginning. Every single person reacted with pain, anger, retaliation, called the abuser out, fought back, tried every single way of defending themselves, showing the abuser they’re hurt and upset, trying to stop the abusive behavior. The reason they can’t do it anymore is because the abuser has punished and traumatized them every single time they tried to fight back. Fighting back has become forbidden, terrifying. Anger has became forbidden to feel, and instead bottled up and turned into self hatred. Even saying something against abuser’s wishes can feel as terrifying and provoking as if they’re asking to get tortured. Abusers will go as far as make victims sure they’ll be killed in an act of revenge if they dare to fight back. And they do this over and over again, until the victim’s survival instincts don’t allow them to fight back, until it’s not worth being disobedient if it means torture and end of life. 

Think about that next time you want to blame someone for not standing up to their abuser and not running away. This person has been looking in the face of death entire time, and you did nothing to help them, but sided with their abuser. You sided up with a monster so despicable they trapped a person and keep hurting them over and over, for their benefit, making their life miserable torture, and you found it easier to turn on the victim. That is cowardice. If you don’t know how being trapped in abuse feels, you should never make comments on it.