furiousgoldfish:

I get so fucking
angry when people try to rationalize why parents abuse children and it’s always
“oh parents have been thru it too” “oh they had a hard
life” “oh they were abused too” “oh they never knew love so
how could they give it” and what they’re basically saying is: Well, the
child is suffering but it’s not anybody’s fault. It was inevitable. And you
know what that means? There’s nobody to blame, there’s no way to stop it, parents
who have had difficulties in life will always abuse their kids and children
will just have to suck it up because that’s life.

Well then, what
about me? And others like me? We’ve been brutalized by our parents severely, we
haven’t know anything except neglect and pain and hatred, and would never do it
to another living soul on earth, much less a child. What are we then? An
exception? Are we so much fucking smarter and intelligent and insightful than
all the parents on the world that we figured this out? Are we special cases?
Are we miracles? How come our parents couldn’t have figured out what we have,
that hurting a child is an act of evil and that we cannot claim to be a good
person after we do that? How come something so fucking simple and obvious has
eluded all of their eyes over and over again but we know it? How come if
everyone abused has no choice but to become a monster themselves, we’re not
monsters still? If we could suffer abuse and remain human, why couldn’t they do
it to?

We’re the proof
that abuse does not produce abusers. Abuse is a choice, every single time a
parent abuses a child they’re making a choice to do it. And the easier this
choice is to make and get away with, the more abusers we will have. This world
is run by abusers and makes it easy for abusers to make that choice, even
relives them out of the guilt for choosing that and provides them with many
“worse” examples and excuses and rationalizations so they would still
feel good about themselves! This world is fighting to continue child abuse, to
continue worshipping abusers. This needs to stop, all excuses need to die. All
abusers need to be held responsible for their own actions, every single one. No
sad backstories, no tragic histories, no debate about how much harder it would
be to not abuse a child than to abuse them. If we could make a choice to not
abuse others, so can they. Their last excuse is burned to the ground by our
existence.