Identifying as an NB lesbian usually means the gender and sexuality are directly linked to each other, with the NB identity being a direct result of being a lesbian. Being a lesbian and not fulfilling society’s expectation of women being available for men and so many gender roles being built around what men want can lead to women being dysphoric towards their own body and disconnected from the concept of womanhood while at the same time holding onto their lesbian identity as that’s what lead to their gender identity in the first place. You’ll often see NB lesbians who say “my gender is lesbian” or “my gender is dyke” because being a lesbian is WHY they don’t feel comfortable considering themself a woman